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Another article about Facebook…
So I found another article about Facebook. As I am half Indonesian and very much miss my family & the food there, I read Kompas online (Indonesian newspaper)… Just to see what is happening over there, trends and get to improve my knowledge of the language…
So today, I found an article and it just made me laugh so hard, as this is also an issue that recently came up among my friends… MOMS on Facebook! And the consequences of not adding her as a friend… Luckily, Facebook also has these little buttons of putting your profile partly on private… Anyway, read the article…
Ibu Saya Bukan Teman Facebook Saya
KOMPAS.com – Kami tertarik dengan tanggapan Ibu Rani yang menulis komennya di www.kompas.com untuk tulisan “Digital Native vs Digital Immigrant” yang dimuat di kolom ini beberapa waktu lalu.
Di sana Ibu Rani mengatakan: “Anak saya umurnya 20 tahun dan adalah contoh digital native karena dia memang hidup 24 jam online….saya adalah digital immigrant, orang yang mencoba untuk bisa masuk ke dunia digitalnya anak saya… Dan yang menyedihkannya, ketika coba ikut Facebook dan add anak saya (lewat friend request), dia malah ignore bukannya malah confirm.”
Ibu Rani ternyata tidak sendirian ikut-ikutan Facebook. Seperti yang telah ditulis sebelumnya, Facebook saat ini semakin dibanjiri oleh ibu-ibu. Menurut data yang dirilis oleh Facebook sendiri, pertumbuhan tercepat populasi di situs jejaring sosial ini adalah segmen 35 tahun ke atas. Dan menurut Erick Qualman dalam Socialnomics, segmen yang juga cukup pesat tumbuhnya adalah wanita umur 55-65 tahun.
Ibu Rani juga bukan satu-satunya yang diabaikan oleh anaknya ketika mengirim friend request di Facebook. Karena ibu-ibu lain pun juga banyak yang di-ignore oleh anak-anaknya. Dan fenomena “My Mom is My Friend, But Not My Facebook Friend” ternyata menjadi fenomena global.
Seorang kolumnis di New York Times, Michelle Slatalla, pernah menulis tentang hal ini di harian tersebut dengan judul “‘OMG My Mom Joined Facebook!!’ Di dalam artikel tersebut ditulis bahwa dinamika dunia Facebook adalah refleksi hubungan kita di dunia offline. Pengalaman yang didapatkan oleh seorang ibu di jaman sekarang ketika masuk ke dunia online lewat Facebook dan malah tidak dianggap oleh anaknya mungkin merefleksikan bahwa si ibu itu tidak menjadi bagian dari jejaring sosial anaknya di dunia offline (baca: nyata).
Lori Aratani menulis hal yang kurang lebih sama di Washington Post di dalam artikel berjudul “When Mom or Dad Asks To Be a Facebook Friend.” Di sana ditulis bahwa semakin banyak orang tua jaman sekarang yang ikut Facebook dan ternyata mereka tidak hanya add anaknya saja, tapi juga teman-teman anaknya. Banyak yang confirm friend request dari orang tua mereka. Tapi banyak pula yang ignore karena kurang sreg untuk memasuki orang tua mereka ke dalam komunitas jejaring mereka di dunia online. Bagi mereka itu “seperti mengajak orang tua ikut main bareng dengan teman-teman.”
So afterwards, the article goes on about internet etiquette, which is completely off the subject (i’m sorry, but the writer didn’t even had a point at the end) but just the start of the article sounded (AND IS!) very familiar… I am just wondering how and WHY moms are getting on facebook as my own mom barely uses the thing…
Or is this their new way of spying on us young grown up children…?
Facebook & its impact… (or evilness)
Having lunch behind your desk gives me certain freedom to surf the web without serious consequences… So this time, i found the following article at the website of the New York Times… Pretty funny & honestly, it shows what stoopid little things we can get mad about… Enjoy…
De-friending me? I don’t think so!
Article by Philip Galanas - Image by Christoph Niemann
Recently, I de-friended my ex and her family on Facebook. The romance ended amicably about a month ago, and I had tired of seeing all those updates. The next day I received an angry message demanding to know why I had cut her out of my life, as well as informing me that I had given her a sexually transmitted disease. How should we untangle ourselves on the Web after a breakup?Anonymous, Brooklyn
Don’t get me started on those interminable Facebook updates: “Mary is going to ‘Wolverine’ at 3:30,” “Mary feels chipper this morning,” “Mary is eating Nutella straight from the jar.”

Who cares, Mary? It’s enough to cause a breakup in the first place.
De-friending exes requires caution, as your story amply demonstrates. You may have given the woman V.D., but removing her from your Facebook account really ticked her off. (Get checked, anyway.)
So if you want to be a congenial ex, don’t make any sudden moves — online or elsewhere — while collective nerves are raw. Leave everything status quo for a few weeks. Then begin a meticulous pyramid of de-friendings: Pruning out her distant relatives first, then casual friends, immediate family and her posse — in that order, leaving several days or more between them.
You may boot the ex herself after a period of pure silence. Start with one month and add another for every year the relationship lasted. Make sure to restart the clock after intervening messages and drunk-dialing episodes.
Or if amicability isn’t your strong suit, wait two and a half minutes after you’ve retrieved the last of your belongings from her place, then de-friend your heart out!
Vitamin water for real?
Getting to the office as the first person, I needed to be on time today… So I woke up at 6am as usual, prepared lunch, freshened up and left the house… When it was still dark… How depressing…
Anyway, got a little bit tired on the way and when I finally got to the office, nobody was there yet (which was fine with Juize fm coming through my Crapple headset) and I needed to eat something (breakfast or 5min longer in bed… you would do the same
) so I went for my muesli bar and VITAMIN WATER… My colleague treated us on this as half of the office is on a diet (gosh…) so I thought I might as well give it a try…
Saw the American version in the States and I tried it once, but the color (very chemical-like and little vitamin-like) just turned me off… So curious as I am, tried the Dutch version and it was… mwaaaahhh… It just tasted like apple juice with too much water… HOWEVER I am very much awake now (more than with coffee) so what is this thing exactly…? It barely contains anything, the only thing which is relatively a lot are the so-called vitamins… Whatever that may be or wherever they may come from… Very chemical drink, with a relatively good taste ONLY when it’s cold & i’m awake… Hmm is this really a good product or am I being seduced by the whole marketing package… I’m not sure yet, but I’ll get back to you on that. Either way, the product deserves some more investigation from my side bravo ;)

What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up: 14 Questions to Help You Figure it
“Found this article when trying to clear my head at the office… Maybe I should take the quiz when I have a bit more time… Office is sooooo busy right now, I even got actually dizzy when multitasking yesterday… Another few hours & I’ll be off again… SSDD… Same shit, different day… “
By Marty Nemko
I ask my clients these questions to help them pick a career. Don’t feel bad if most of your answers aren’t helpful. On average, only a few questions generate a useful clue.
Questions to tease out the unusual
None of us want to feel ordinary. One way to feel special is to find a career that incorporates something unusual about us. That also may yield you a higher salary: employers often pay more for rare attributes than for common ones.
1. Do you believe something that is different from what most people believe?
2. What knowledge or ability do you have that most people lack?
3. Do you have an unusual personality characteristic?
Questions to tease out career clues from our daily life
Clues from our daily lives can help us figure out who we really are:
4. What items do you save?
5. On what productive task, do you spend a lot of time, while enjoying the process? (Consider both at-work and outside-of-work tasks.)
6. If I looked around your home or office (including through your drawers,) what clue(s) might I derive about you?
7. What kinds of problems do you solve well at work? At home?
Questions that look at our dark side
Northern California is the land of positivism. We’re encouraged to think positive, act positive. Yet our dark side may offer career clues.
8. Is there a product that makes you so angry you’d like to fix it?
9. Is there a service that makes you so angry you’d like to fix it?
10. Is there an aspect of society that makes you so angry you’d like to fix it?
11. What would be your job from hell? Would you like to do the opposite?
Question to identify a career angel
It is sad but true that who you know often counts as much as what you know.
12. Do you know a wealthy, well-connected, eminent, or highly skilled person who could help you get hired for a better job than you could likely get on the open market?
The most powerful questions
Sometimes, these questions are the most revealing of all. Some clients cry when I ask them:
13. What are you reluctant to admit, even to yourself?
14. What do you want? What do you really want?
Now, look at your answers. Pick out the one, two, or three clues that feel most significant. Does any career come to mind?
Advice I’d give my child
Standard advice is to pursue a career only if you’re passionate about it. I believe that is poor counsel. If you asked 100 people who are passionate about their career, “Were you passionate about it before you entered it?” most would say no. Most people become passionate about their career after they’ve entered it. For example, I know someone who, by chance, ended up in the truck dashboard manufacturing business. Before he entered the field, he certainly wasn’t passionate about truck dashboards, but now, when he can answer anyone’s questions about them and makes a good living at it because few people have his expertise, he has indeed grown passionate about dashboards. Take a moderate amount of time to consider career options; then, choose something, anything.
It’s like sex: for real passion, you can’t just think about it; you have to get into it.
56 min to go…
aaaaahhhhh MALEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS…………….
i don’t wanna work no more, but i have toooooo… i also have to bring my laptop home… have to finish some work at home… have tooooooo…. aaaaahhh tapi lagi malessssssssssssssssssss………….
males kerja, males bawa laptop, males males males… hahahah tapi ndak males makan… never ever males makan… except kalo lagi sakit, ya jelas lah…
53 minutes to go… 52 minutes to go…
aahhh i will try to get back to work again… after work gonna meet up with friends for dinner again & then go home again… i can tell pasti males kalo pulang malem… hahahah NO i have to go home tonight…
but for now… work work work… 51 minutes to go… counting…